“Transformation is large, significant and lasting.”— Carolyn J. Braden, 4/11/2019
Transformation is not always easy or comfortable, but it’s necessary to bring you to where you need to be in life. And then, just when you think you’ve completed the process and have reached your “destination”, a new transformation process starts ALL OVER AGAIN.
I’ve gone through transformation after transformation over the course of my almost 40 years of life and can see that they are not going to stop any time soon. From eating healthier to only purchasing cruelty free beauty products and more, to starting several new career paths, I’ve transformed a lot. Though I complain to myself (and sometimes out loud-“Why, oh why do I have to keep doing so many HARD things!”), I don’t spend too much time doing so. Complaining too often is just a waste of time and it can be better spent going ahead and moving forward with the process. The quote “What you resist persists.” is definitely true. The transformation process is going to come and knock on your door over and over again whether you like it or not.
Something I’ve noticed with each large transformation I’ve had in my life is an actual PROCESS made up of three cycles.
I’ve mapped out my process below:
LOVE: I believe the process of transformation starts with LOVE. There is usually a thought that comes up like “I need to lose weight”, “I need a new job/career path” or “I would like to date/marry someone”. That thought is one that is made up of LOVE. One of loving yourself. You are giving yourself so much love if you know it’s time to transform!
EDUCATION: After you get the feelings of loving yourself swimming through your soul, you then come to the cycle of EDUCATION. This is the cycle that you have to ask yourself the hard questions: “What am I going to do in order to lose weight?”, “What am I going to do in order to obtain the new job/career path?”, or “How am I going to date/marry someone?”. It is at this point in which you must EDUCATE yourself in order to be able to answer those questions. Educate yourself by reading books, magazines and online articles, watching videos, going to school, talking to other people, attending workshops and more.
TRANSFORMATION: After you move through the LOVE and EDUCATION cycles, you then fall directly into the path of TRANSFORMATION. This is the path when you get to choose one of two directions. You’ve loved yourself enough to acknowledge transformation is needed and you’ve educated yourself on how to make it happen, however you get to choose whether to take action or not. Many decide to take action at this point (yay!), but some do not. Others will begin the transformation, but then stop at some point in the cycle. What stops them? Not enough weight loss, not making a romantic connection, rejection and more tend to be the culprits. If you decide to not take action or stop in the middle, that’s fine, but let me tell you this: The cycle process is going to repeat itself. It’s going to happen over and over and over again until you successfully complete the entire 3 cycles.
Let me tell you another thing in case you have any doubt about this cycle process: You WILL BE A SUCCESS if you keep going! Try to push through and make things happen. Putting yourself out there to make a big transformation is HARD.
You may feel vulnerable, tired, uninspired, but you can do it.
It may take a month, it may take years. Transformation timing is different for each human.
The key to making your transformation a success is to keep it up. It’s not a diet. It’s a lifestyle. If you have a slip up (MINOR WINTER WEIGHT GAIN, CAN YOU HEAR ME?!), that’s okay. It doesn’t mean your transformation is unsuccessful or ruined. You still have the LOVE and the EDUCATION, so take a few back steps into the transformation cycle and figure out how to move back into your own definition of success.
My suggestion to help you along your path is to find someone you can talk to. Find your own personal LIFELONG cheerleader that pushes you forward, even on the days you don’t think you can do it anymore. I am fortunate to have a husband that helps me along, and I do the same for him. Before my husband, I was lucky enough to have a handful of great friends (many of who are still in my life) who encouraged me when I needed it.
If you don’t have a cheerleader and need a little encouragement, find yourself a life coach, a good therapist, a group or individual at your church. Make finding a cheerleader be a part of your EDUCATION cycle!
Good luck to you and your transformation process!
Sending love and light to all that need it!
There is a difference between change and transformation, and that is why my cycle process is dedicated to making a TRANSFORMATION. Change is described as “to substitute or replace something.” “Transformation,” on the other hand, is defined as “a complete change, usually into something with an improved appearance or usefulness.” Transformation is large, significant and lasting. Read more about the difference via this helpful article on CIO Insight.